Jacki C King

I don’t really feel like going on about our culture and how sexually oriented it is and the sexual agenda that is constantly being pushed within the confines of our families and churches and schools. I really more want to just kinda touch on some things and give an opinion that will more than likely raise some eyebrows, hack off some, and relate to all others.

I read that a girl was getting married for sex. I heard a story of a girl who talked boisterously as a newlywed that her and her husband were having sex. It seems as though marriage is equated to sex, instead of sex being a factor in marriage. I would hate to be the young woman who has waited all her life for the night of her wedding, and then within moments her entire life pursuit is over and done with. I also cringe for the young lady that tries to use sex as a kind of stature for climbing the ladder of our americanized culture, but it seems it doesn’t end with just these two, its something that is more prominent on college campuses, high school campuses, work places, you name it, its there.
I think there is the mystical view of having sex completes us as women. If we reach the feelings of desire and security with sleeping with a guy, we feel loved, we feel valued. I think the overwhelming number of couples that aren’t married having sex comes from this desire alone. We try to temporally forget the pain, and we try to fulfill these natural desires. I see pictures of so many girls who dress sexy and revealing, thinking that they are esteeming themselves and proud of their bodies, and all they are screaming is I want you to be attracted to me, I want you to want me, I want you to love me as the old song goes. Hours spent over and over trying to make the outside beautiful and appealing, and nothing for the soul and actually taking responsibility for why we’re so jacked up. I wonder how many girls have just been scarred over and over and over again by giving themselves for the pursuit of love and the pursuit of desire, and get hurt because it doesn’t work out and then go climbing into bed trying to mend the hurt, and instead burn the wound deeper and deeper into their souls.

Christians I believe have gotten on the wrong band wagon as well. Some how we get into marriage and we think its a tell all. That some how because its permissible its suppose to be flaunted and public knowledge. How have we lost the sacredness of marriage? How have we lost the God designed plan of it being between a man and a women, and the intimacy of two created beings feeling their souls come together. Somehow we have lost the meaning and the love and trust and joy that comes along with marriage and sex. The task of being able to love and honor our spouse like no one else can, to know everything bad and good about someone, and show pure and complete love. Two coming as one, and not including everyone under the sun.

Those, married or not, who just have sex for sex, I fear are missing out on so much more of what God intended. I think that there is a reason God has us out of the entire population of species, making love face to face. Maybe its to honor him, maybe its not about us and our feelings and our desires. Maybe its about an intimacy so many want to know, but wont fully experience until they meet the One that created it.